I am Watching You!

Weekly Thoughts
From
Rev. Dr. Gary A. Williams™

revdr@sensuousseminars.com

July 26, 2010

Why must I treat grown adults as children? Why must I as a leader be afraid of the truth? These questions cause my attention to go in that direction. I believe that our people (those from that African Diaspora) can handle the truth. Shucks, they have been dealing with them all of their lives. I’ve heard all my life that, “Truth pressed to the ground shall rise again.”

It’s time for the truth to be told and for all of us to act accordingly. Jesus told us that; "we shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free." One of my many truths is that I love marriage and I enjoy being married and I think that it is the best man known institution. After all, “Marriage” has been and is ordained of God.

Because so many people get married I believe that they love marriage also. I am concerned that so many marriages end in divorce, especially “Black Marriages.” One thing that our children need is love and consistency. They need to see husbands and wives working and building together. Much distrust is being passed down and shared in our community. Let me explain further.

The truth is being shared in Barber Shops, Beauty Parlors, Nail Salons, Churches and Grocery Store lines. Thus I ask, “Are we going backwards instead of moving forward?” I just had a conversation in the checkout line at the grocery store. The clerk said that, “men (Black Men) cannot be trusted. They must be monitored.” Greta my wife, being who she is responded, “Can you be trusted and why must you monitor a ‘Grown Man’…don’t you have something better to do with your time?”

Greta and I understand that trust for any individual begins with them in their psyche. It begins based upon their belief system and emotional state. It is based upon their experiences and especially their hurts, pains and fears. Most of us are controlled by fear. We don’t do many things because of fear. We don’t do many things because we don’t trust ourselves and as a result, we do not trust others.

I believe many marriages fail because of lack of knowledge. Scripture instructs us, “My people perish for lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6).” I am grateful for a wife that loves me, and the institution of marriage and feels that we as a loving couple are to extend ourselves and help other couples build successful marriages.

We became quite aware of being watched over the last three years, and we thought we were very non-descript and uninteresting. We found that by telling the truth and especially “OUR” truth did not make everyone happy. We also found that some will stand for truth privately but run from it publicly so as not to be in controversy for fear of losing their position or favor from those that have position and power. To say the least this was disappointing from an institution, which is to be based in the truth.

Greta and I were teasing around one morning, as we often do, and we were reminded of Slave’s song, “Watching You.” We thought that it might be fun to share another part of ourselves with the world and demonstrate that married couples can have fun while experiencing the mundane realities of life. Some things may be “run of the mill,” but you can choose to be in the moment and have fun or otherwise. Greta and I as often as we can, choose to have fun. It’s part of our ongoing intent, “To Make Love.”

Our new project, “Sex In The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta” has and is bringing more vibrancy into our lives. It pushes us even harder to practice what we teach. It has been and it is fun and fulfilling. We continue with our “Affection Series” and we look forward to sharing our next segment, which will be dedicated to “Hugging.”

Our new promo, “I am Watching You!!!” can be found on our channel at: http://www.youtube.com/Sensuousseminars1.

We know that the information we share is valuable. It keeps us in a positive and receptive frame of mind. We use it and it works. We present it to you as a testimony of our faith and practice.

Yours truly,
Gary A.
Gary A.

Eye Gazing

Rev. Dr. Gary A. Williams™
revdr@Sensuousseminars.com

July 19, 2010

This week’s thought revolves around one particular aspect of Love. The love that I am focusing on is Eros or Romantic Love. However “Philo” love (Brotherly Love) is involved because wives and husbands want to have a friend in their married partner. Wives in particular want to have their being affirmed and not feel objectified. Thus husbands and wives must work at being balanced. They must both work at being friends as well as lovers. Husbands and wives must continuously create and share love.

Falling in love is a misnomer. Love is actually created. It is intentional. It has to be created over and over between husbands and wives. This practice creates and brings “Spice back into one’s marriage”, over and over again.

I share the following poem to introduce our new “Sex In The Morning Show With Gary A. & Greta™ second episode on “Eye Gazing.” Our series is on Affection. It involves communicating through “Kissing, Eye Gazing “and there is more to come… We are intent on changing our world one marriage at a time. What we share is from our experience. They are practices that we used and use to enhance our life and marriage. Last night prior to retiring for sleep I asked Greta, "Greta, are "we" too old to be having this much fun?” She replied, “No, I would have it no other way. I am having so much fun in my marriage!"

Greta and I intend for each of these videos to provide thoughts for you to ponder and embrace for the enhancement of your marriage and/or relationship. We find that these practices provides us balance, support, fuel and a staging area for our personal and collective foundation of living in the world and allowing the spiritual principles of Love, Peace, Happy, Prosperity, Abundance, Joy, “ONEness” and Power to flow through us. In gazing in Greta’s eyes I am inspired as captured in the following prose.

I Gaze

I Gaze and become enthralled
I gaze and my heart skips
Pitter … patter

I hear my heart beat
I gaze into Greta’s Eyes
and I
Experience Heaven
Heaven in this moment
which is lasting a pleasant eternity

How good it is to be in this place
In heaven yet my feet are on the earth
In eternity yet in this here, right here,
right now
In this most wonderful perfect moment
I am in eternal heaven
No worries,
No concerns
Heeding the proclamation
“Be Happy!”

I am
I am
I am
As I gaze into your eyes

Gazing touches my Heart
and Soul Warms,
nurtures and expands my soul

As I gaze into my lover’s, my partner’s, my best friend eyes
And no one
No thing Comes between us
Interrupts our Heavenly State

We are connected and in this moment ONE!!! Ahhh this ONEness

Needless to say, I love gazing into Greta’s eyes and research bears proof that others enjoy looking into the eyes of their lover’s just as much. Eye gazing connects human souls, especially when husband and wife gaze at each other. It is one of the most intimate acts with the absence of touching.

This week’s “Weekly Thought” is really an admonishment; it is simply, “Try it.” That is “Eye Gazing.” I believe you will like it. I pray that you have a Sensuous Week.

Please view our second episode at: http://www.youtube.com/SensuousSeminars1.

Your comments are encouraged and welcome.

Yours truly, Gary A.

Sex In the Show Morning with Gary A. & Greta "Kissing"

This week’s thought is a Sensuous Tip©. In our goal to strengthen marriages, Greta and I not only offer you this “Sensuous Tip,” we also bring you our first episode of “Sex in the Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta. It is about "kissing."

Kissing is a fun and impacting activity that can bring a husband and wife closer together. It is an intimate act that conveys love, care and nurture. Husband and wife need to love each other. They need to touch each other physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Kissing is a sensuous way to connect for it involves all six (6) senses. Yes, Sensuous Loving involves all of the senses, taste, feel, hear, smell, seeing and intuition.

Yes, there are six senses! Since communication is a couple’s most precious tool, whether it is verbal, non-verbal, written or spoken. It is paramount that couples engage in communication to convey their love. Kissing is a wonderful and loving form of communication.

Kissing helps couples connect their heart, mind, body, soul and spirit. As a husband and wife, you have the ability to make this connection fun; however it takes work. This work need not be arduous or super time consuming. It can be fast, invigorating and exciting to the body and soul as all senses collide to offer up pleasure. Kissing is one of the activities we suggest to start you on your way to a more spice-filled marriage. A husband and wife who intentionally pursue ONEness will obtain deeper and deeper intimacy. You can begin this journey by making an agreement to “Kiss” each other before you start your day.

How you decide to “Kiss” and for how long is up to you. This should not be a chore. Kissing should be entered into with a spirit of anticipation, generosity, love, forgiveness, playfulness and mutual consent. Respect is mandatory. As husband and wife, partaking in this pleasure will enhance your love for each other and give it the chance to grow.

Enjoy our Sex in the Morning show with Gary A. & Greta Episode 1 on “Kissing” on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpBcQVNpSKg. As you seek to create intimacy in your marriage, may you and your lover have a Sensuous Day! Yours truly, Gary A.

Sex In the Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta Episode 1 "Kissing"

"Designed to Put Spice Back Into Your Marriage"

Greta and I, are well on our way in taping, “Sex In The Morning Show with Gary A. and Greta.” Our first episode will be on “Kissing.” Our show is based on the premise that Greta and I are experts in our marriage. We want to show processes and tidbits that we have found helpful in solidifying our marriage. We continue to grow into our ONEness as a couple.

Greta and I grew concerned about marriage many years ago. We wanted to have a successful marriage but realized that we had entered it unprepared. We had no idea what to expect, where we were going or how to get there. We did know that we loved each other. We started off liking and loving each other. Love lasted but we grew in and out of “like.” We were determined to stay together and so we learned that we did not have to like everything about each other and that it was not the end of the world or our marriage if we did not see eye to eye on everything.

Over the years, we have witnessed many people taking their marriage vows and we have seen many of those same couples endure divorce. We have been blessed to teach and facilitate process on marriage and pre-marriage. We have gotten much positive feedback on our efforts and feel compelled to continue in this work. Thus, through Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta, we want to highlight the positive aspects of marriage. Marriage can be so much fun if you intend it.

We believe you get out of life what you put into it and that you can chose that outcome of many ventures you undertake. Thus, you can make marriage what you want. My dad always told me that it takes two (2) to make a marriage work, he taught me to love, respect and cherish my wife, not only in word but also in deed. Without a shadow of a doubt my dad loved my mom and so that is the example, prejudice and passion, I bring to my marriage. My mom loved my dad and showed it in many awesome ways. In their seventies (70’s) they were loving and affectionate until illness entered their life experience. And despite their memory loss you could feel their love whenever they were in a room together.

Greta and I took their advice seriously and whenever we left their presence my mom would implore us to “Be Good To Each Other.” We promised we would and we intend to continue to keep this promise. Our work comes from twenty-five (25) years of working at our marriage and more than ten (10) years of intensive study and intentional practice. We share it in the vehicle of today using relevant technology.

We want there to be a positive voice for marriage in the universe. We are concerned that we hear so much negativity about marriage, especially from comedians. Marriage is a beautiful institution. You only need to love your wife or husband as you love yourself. We need only treat them as you love yourself. You need to cherish your partner and not be afraid to be vulnerable to and with them. Yes, these are simple words and simple advice. At times, we have found it to be difficult to follow and practice. "Sex In The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta", will remind you of the basics and the simple things you can do to keep and or put spice into your marriage. It promises to be engaging, entertaining and educational.

We hope you will support us in this new venture and share this good and great effort with someone else. You can view our episodes on Youtube at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6W5cZeBv0_0 and Facebook at Gary A. Williams. Spread the news that “Marriage is Good” and "Sex in the Morning Show with Gary A. and Greta" is a wonderful illustration of it.

Have a Sensuous Day!

Yours truly,
Gary A.

Please check out Greta's Sensuous Talks Video below.