Loving, Dating & Marriage

September 2, 2010

How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. -Song of Solomon 1:15-16

Earlier today I Googled, “How should a man treat his wife?” I was pleasantly surprised that the answer came back, that one should treat one’s wife with “respect, love, faithfulness, honesty and patience.”

Song of Solomon is a book for married couples. It is a book that encourages husband and wives to love one another. It encourages both to treat each other special. It challenges them to take delight in each other and in the pleasures that each has to offer.

Though written rather cryptically in comparison to our time, it gives great details as to how Lovers can enjoy each other. At the core of its teachings is to take time and amuse each other sensuously. Lovers are encouraged to see, taste, touch, smell and hear each other. Husbands are to rest in the bosom of their wives and wives are to open up to their husbands. Each is to give and receive compliments. Most of all they are to be present in the time they have with each other and to love each other slowly.

Men can learn a lot from this book of love and learn to slow down and be with their wives. Men can learn to talk, listen and be vulnerable with their wives. If husband and wife do as this book instructs, they will be drawn together in ONEness and their love will be nurtured and grow. In fact they will create and re-create love, over and over again.

The writer says that the bed is verdant. Verdant means lush, green and/or fertile. The bed is to be used to create, re-create and fuel intimacy. Husbands and wives not only receive permission; they are admonished to make love.

Love however starts outside of the bedroom. It starts with conversation and the free exchange of ideas and feelings. It starts with husband and wife taking the time to know each other’s hearts, dreams and aspirations. Love starts with each feeling that the other cares and desires the other. Before a husband and wife can fully enjoy the fruits of the bedroom and the enjoyment and pleasure of copulation, they must enjoy their time outside of it and before they know it the two will blend seamlessly together.

Husbands and wives must enjoy each other outside of physical contact and develop emotional intimacy. This will build the trust and desire to explore the world and each other in creative and exciting ways. Williard F. Harley, Jr suggests that husbands and wives spend at least twenty (20) hours a week with each other. This time is to be spent having fun and enjoying each other. This time is to be a priority.

Thus Great and I challenge you to do what we do and that is to have a date night, every week. We mix it up and do all sorts of things and take in the world in which we live. It keeps our time together fun and exciting and we both look forward to being with each other at this time.

I have included the link to the latest episode of “Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta” its topic is “Sensuous Date.” I hope that you enjoy and apply some of the teachings to your relationship. It can be found at: http://www.Youtube.com/SensuousSeminars1


Eternally in Love with Greta

-Rev. Dr. Gary A.